How woman can find herself in the state of serene happiness again · Как женщинам вернуться к состоянию безмятежного счастья

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"I am Soul" - this is innermost knowledge that has been allowing a woman to be at peace, loving and happy all her life. It has been a secret of not only her happiness but also of welfarism of nations. How does this knowledge work?

Treating herself as Soul a woman knew: Soul is eternal so there is nothing to be afraid of - problems come and go but life never ends. Soul is full of love - love does not give out, increase in love leads to increase in happiness. Soul is happiness, being happy is natural. Soul is beauty, it uncovers the best feelings. Soul means mercifulness and kindness. Soul is gentleness and warmness. Advanced, naturally developed Soul acts as a magnet to Courage that gives her protection. A woman that follows her gentle loving nature is always attractive to a strong generous man. This is known to be the law of harmony. It is the law of life that our ancestors believed and practiced. Purity, kindness and gentleness of a woman guaranteed her a happy life.
That way, women remained under protection of men all their life: first, she would be protected by her father and brothers, then by her husband and in later years her sons and other relatives would support her. But who would bring up such honorable and strong men? A woman! When women find fault with men they rather should pay attention to how they raise their sons.
In the similar manner women would be under wing of every man in the society. Females of the past knew how to interact with men other than of her family without contamination of relationships. All elderly men were treated as fathers, younger ones were addressed as sons or younger brothers and men of the same age were referred as brothers. (c)

Re-sequencing priorities · Меняя приоритеты

I was --> I want

One who does not put "God" in the first place, will not understand his/her role in this world and will know nothing about true life. I guess i could call this the next task of re-discovering myself, much more difficult than accumulation of energy but also more powerful. What is it about? It is about deep transformation of priorities. 
For women the way to self-actualization goes through exercising her belief in God and her family roles. Needless to say, her sincere and selfless service to God, her husband and children, implementation of her respect to other family members is a much bigger challenge than work. But as I observe it is also much more rewarding.
Understanding the fact that God comes first in the list of priorities is very crucial. On one side we must remember that neither family, nor work can be looked at as a source of happiness and strength. Everything: happiness, strength, - limitlessly come to us only from God. On the other side intimate relationships in family (and everywhere else) cannot be developed just like that, based only on physical nearness to each other. True intimacy becomes possible only when through connection with Divine energy based on expressing love to God and honest service to Him your heart is sensitized to love and service to another human being. Therefore one and especially woman has to focus on sustaining continuous strong connection with God prior to all other relations. Only in such frame of mind we gain calmness, purity and strength to see and value true nature of ourselves and people around us - beautiful nature of eternal soul and thus to fulfill our life mission.

Who wants a Madrasi curry treat? · Кто хочет угоститься Мадраси карри?

One of the greatest blessed gifts for any woman is ability to increase love in the world simply by cooking and feeding people. Girls I'll be happy to teach you one of the greatest recipes i have learnt while living in India - Madrasi curry. Let me know whether you are interested so when i am around we could meet, talk, laugh and cook together as well as create a good portion of good female energy for each other =)

Одним из самых больших подарков, которыми благославлена любая женщина, является способность увеличивать количество любви в мире, просто готовя еду и кормя ею людей. Девочки, я буду счастлива поделиться секретами приготовления одного из прекраснейших блюд, которыми я овладела, живя в Индии - Мадраси карри. Дайте мне знать, если вам интересно, и, когда я окажусь поблизости, мы сможем встретиться, поболтать, насмеяться и приготовить это блюдо вместе, как и сотворить хорошую порцию женской энергии друг для друга =)

New angle on the King's Speech · Новый взгляд на "Говорящего Короля"

I watched The King's Speech again the other day. I use to highlight the brilliant cast, screen play, direction... so many "professional" attributes of the film that are no doubt praise-worthy. To me from now on it is also one of those rare movies which could be taken as a guide to true relationships - how one should serve his/her friend, spouse, country...

На днях вновь посмотрела "Король говорит". Для меня это всегда был фильм искусный, профессиональный, с блестящим актёрским составом, сценарием, режиссёрской работой... Но теперь я также считаю его одной из тех редких картин, которые действительно учат настоящим отношениям - тому, как следует служить другу, супругу, стране...

When a Girl is a true life companion · Истинная спутница жизни

1. She who deeply understands the purpose of life of her husband as well as opportunities of his destiny is his true life companion.

When a woman marries a man she has to get truly inspired but what a man considers his life purpose. She has to completely support his goals and inspire him to do whatever he considers needful. She has to be very excited about his purpose and look forward to it. By doing this she kindles his enthusiasm, actually nourishes his sense. As a result he self-develops very quickly. He matures. But there is a condition: if a woman does not accept living circumstances which her man is able to provide in the very beginning, she will destroy her life as well as life of her husband.

Woman has to bless her destiny for the life she was given, she has to be absolutely satisfied by what her destiny brings her. When she is satisfied she does not demand anything from her husbandю When she is at peace her husband himself starts developing quality of responsibility, he blooms as a man and this is what grows her love for him.

2. There cannot be expected happy family life if wife is not able to inspire her man to fulfill his responsibilities. If she fails to do it her family loses wealth and all other things.

Woman's main quality is ability to inspire her man to fulfill his responsibilities. To inspire means respect him and take care of him, support him in what he intends to do the right thing and do not support his unwillingness to do it. woman has to be very strict with her husband when he does not want to fulfill his duty, she has to be like a stone and her behavior has to be firm.

3. If a woman possesses all qualities of a true life companion her husband has nothing more to wish, he has everything. But if she does not have those qualities he has nothing.

4. Could there be bigger treasure in life than such a just wife.

5. A good wife upon rising worships not God but expresses her respect for her husband and Vedas consider it to be sufficient. Even clouds will obey such a woman and rains will fall at her command.

She who takes up ascesis to see her husband as dignified person and respect him becomes puissant personality. It is very difficult for a woman to do so due to the special thing she has about her psychу - she cannot not see the truth. She can see through one and knows all his qualities at once. If a woman is pure with regards to her husband she knows all his twists and turns and despite this she has to obey him. When a woman is determined to respect her husband unconditionally she gradually observes him changing as well. 

6. Is there any use in woman's selflessness and ascesis if she develops herself but not relationships with her husband. Что проку в отречении и аскетизме женщины, которая работает над собой и не работает над отноешниями с мужем.
Indeed only those women who invest all their energy into their husbands reach perfection in their lives. Else their family breaks due to the fact that difference in mental position between a wife and a husband becomes fatal.
Tirukkural narrated by doctor O.G.Torsunov

25 responsibilities for a happy family life · 25 обязанностей для счастливой семейной жизни

25 RESPONSIBILITIES OF A WOMAN
1. To get married and create a family
2. To preserve the family
3. To "make" her man a man
4. To organize all domestic cares
5. To exercise domestic cares
6. To be loyal to her husband with her body, in her deeds and thoughts
7. To become her man's best friend
8. To be beautiful and attractive to her man
9. To inspire her man
10. To eat sweet meats
11. To wear jewelry
12. To enjoy beautiful clothing
13. To wear long skirts
14. To always experience closeness to her man - to not estrange from him
15. To respect her man
16. To appreciate and give praise to her man
17. To admire her man
18. To obey her man
19. To manage her emotions
20. To be moderate and patient
21. To speak serenely and gently
22. To be sensitive and tender
23. Take part in child-rearing
24. To do good to her husband - do it with love
25. To not fulfill her husband's role.

25 RESPONSIBILITIES OF A MAN
1. To take leadership in man-woman relationships
2. To being responsible for external policy - having friends, relationships with other people
3. To expanding space - house, flat
4. To earning family income
5. To identifying his personal nature: "intellectual"/"manager"/"trader"/"crafter"
6. To finding a job/business in accordance with his personal nature
7. To giving inspiration/permission to his wife
8. To respecting his wife
9. To feeling reverence for his wife, protecting her
10. To not criticizing his wife, accepting her the way she is
11. To not talking over his wife
12. To being responsible for moral education of his family
13. To being responsible for physical development of his family
14. To being responsible for spiritual/religious education of his family
15. To being the leader in child-rearing
16. To identifying principles of mutual life - understanding of purpose of life
17. To differentiating spheres of mutual life - man must know which are his duties and which ones belong to his wife
18. To being serious human being
19. To being person respected by the society
20. To understanding woman's changeable nature
21. To providing his woman with sweet meets, jewelry and beautiful garments
22. To being loving to his wife so she could feel it
23. To eat cereals
24. To feeling reverence for his wife's parents and respecting them more than his own parents
25. Husband's parents have to respect their daughter-in-law more their own son

Purpose of creating a family · Смысл создания семьи

"Family life aims not at resolving personal conflicts and problems but by having stable and strong harmony within the family to benefit your own children and society...indeed those who help other people automatically resolve problems of their own relationships. It is not possible for those who focus on resolving their own problems in the first place. One must know that if he creates family in a wrong way he/she will spend all his energy on solving family problems. In this case he/she will be absolutely useless for society...
...Incorrect understanding of purpose of creating family will influence further destiny of a person...Life in a family where relatives do not have and share sublime aspiration can be compared to surgical intervention... There will surely be pain and offenses. Moreover their whole life together will not be enough for such family to understand that all difficulties they faced were their lessons. It is only then you are good in studies when you do not cut your own intestine in order to practice methods of help. In the same way it is better to learn helping others when your family is in peace and you have energy and time to help."
(c) 2000-2004, Doctor O.G. Torsunov, www.torsunov.ru

Discovering fascinating womanhood · Открывая увлекательную женственность

Target setting, competition, opportunity to solve problems (+time and privacy for that), being relied on and trusted, risk, even danger, right to dominate, success, effectiveness, money, result achievement, time limited project management, power and influence.. - these are men's first "friends" in dealing with stress. 

On the contrary, everything that provides ability to share, communicate, safety, clearness, beauty, trust, cooperation, care, ability to delegate responsibility and troubles, express of love, fulfilling skills and talents, support, team work, regime makes girls "stronger"! Stronger not like a fireman LOL but like a flower of which power is in its bloom!

Two absolutely different sets, two simple examples describing two different realities that men and women are..

This makes me think a lot about phenomena of emancipating modern girl who seeks self-satisfaction and self-actualization in activities that are built by men and for men. I know this kind of girls, she said pointing at herself. Moreover i think i can explain how girls who choose this way, "pull the blanket", slowly step by step start neglecting their true female nature and risk their own happiness and happiness of their loved ones. 

This doesn't mean i vote for "men at work" and "women at home" but i think that as a girl i should understand the whole potential of being one. The experiment i mentioned in my first post involves looking for the best field to fulfill professional interests AND my female nature. The main part of it is to learn womanhood, taking care of my energy and happiness, explore and unleash my talents that will help me create beauty in and around me. I am happy to share that few simple changes I initiated so far thanks to Olga Valyaeva and her teachers gave me taste of great female energy:

I have been wearing outfits based predominantly on skirts for more than 2 months and have completely excluded pants from my wardrobe since 2 weeks. It also appeared to be a beautiful challenge allowing my long-time idea of up/recycling come into reality. 

I focus on design and handicraft as my main source i draw my energy and inspiration from! Along with transformed clothing habits it truly relaxes, develops grace and patience, makes me feel light. 

I have been re-discovering the power of wearing accessories. I do appreciate the jewelry i was gifted - it's a long time investment into my well-being, beauty and happiness.

I started putting more love and inspiration into my responsibilities at home and slowly developed love for fulfilling them. Yes, i haven't yet developed a proper habit and schedule but i stopped avoiding them because i learnt how much they mean to my well-being and well-being of my loved ones.

I got rid of my hard feelings towards my loved ones by putting them on paper, burning them and letting the ashes fly away. I have to say i had not believed in the power of this exercise till the very end. But soul never lies - i now have only words of gratitude!

I started paying attention to how i speak with people and especially loved ones. It shocked me at first but showed me a great scope for self-improvement.

I have been testing female energy "boosters". Let's keep in touch - soon i'll share my list of the TOP ones =) Meanwhile, would you like to share yours?

Once upon a time: me spending a wonderful day with my dear friend. She knows how to take best pics of me =) =*

Love,

Fayruza

PS: people before you start - i did not burn my loved ones in order release myself from hard feelings =D just paper with text! forgive my english please LOL

How and why Girls must become happy · Как и зачем стать счастливой

Source: http://www.templeofthephoenix.org

What is "moon energy" and its practical importance? Why women go through stress in the modern world? How women lead their fight with stress to no effect? What increases women's moon energy and what makes her stress resistance rise? How can we, beautiful flowers, get filled with pure energy of happiness?

No matter, what religion we follow, to what nationality we belong, on what values we are based on, I say "big thanks" to Olga Valyaeva and Ruslan Narushevich who cleared up the topic and broad based "recipe" of women happiness in simple but inspiring manner. 

Что такое лунная энергия и в чём заключается её практическая важность? Почему в наш век женщина испытывает стресс? Как женщины безрезультатно борются со стрессом? От чего увеличивается лунная энергия или повышается стрессоустойчивость женщины? Как нам, прекрасным цветкам, зарядиться истинной энергией счастья?

Неважно, какую религию мы исповедуем, к какой национальности принадлежим, на каких ценностях зиждемся, за простое, но вдохновляющее раскрытие этой темы и "рецепта" счастья, универсальные по своей природе, я говорю Ольге Валяевой и Руслану Нарушевичу "Большое спасибо". 

Like a flower. A beautiful parallel · Как цветок. Прекрасная аналогия

A flower blossoms not with purpose of being picked up by a special man. It blooms because it is a flower. Because it is full of energy of life and love to overflowing. And it wants to gratify the world. (c)

Цветок расцветает не для того, чтобы его сорвал определённый человек. Он распускается потому, что он - цветок. Потому что он переполнен энергией жизни и любви. И ему хочется радовать этот мир. (с)

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