Re-sequencing priorities · Меняя приоритеты

I was --> I want

One who does not put "God" in the first place, will not understand his/her role in this world and will know nothing about true life. I guess i could call this the next task of re-discovering myself, much more difficult than accumulation of energy but also more powerful. What is it about? It is about deep transformation of priorities. 
For women the way to self-actualization goes through exercising her belief in God and her family roles. Needless to say, her sincere and selfless service to God, her husband and children, implementation of her respect to other family members is a much bigger challenge than work. But as I observe it is also much more rewarding.
Understanding the fact that God comes first in the list of priorities is very crucial. On one side we must remember that neither family, nor work can be looked at as a source of happiness and strength. Everything: happiness, strength, - limitlessly come to us only from God. On the other side intimate relationships in family (and everywhere else) cannot be developed just like that, based only on physical nearness to each other. True intimacy becomes possible only when through connection with Divine energy based on expressing love to God and honest service to Him your heart is sensitized to love and service to another human being. Therefore one and especially woman has to focus on sustaining continuous strong connection with God prior to all other relations. Only in such frame of mind we gain calmness, purity and strength to see and value true nature of ourselves and people around us - beautiful nature of eternal soul and thus to fulfill our life mission.

50 thanks to God · 50 благодарностей Богу

Source: A Muslim Child Is Born

I am grateful to You..

• for coming to this world as a much expected child as my parents nurtured their love for me for 3 years before i was born
• for my mom who with her own deeds shows what motherly devotion means, how one should innocently enjoy simple things and should never despond due to life difficulties, that there is always a reason for laughter 
• for my dad who became my first-in-life best friend, with whom i discovered the world as wonder, who always believes in my talents, who has got the most contagious laughter in the world
• for my sister, my Little One, who gave me my first lesson of service and still teaches me lot of things =) for her own family - her hubby and son - who give all of us opportunity to learn another roles and responsibilities
• for the dream of my own family i am coming closer to along with developing my faith in Your love and care
• for the fact that through my family You have always acted as a Protecter from unfavourable company, places, events and false knowledge
• for the trust my parents showed towards all my expressed choices and decisions...well, almost all of them =) it nourished my self-confidence
• for the fact that i originate from two imperfect but big and strong family houses
• for every person through whom You shower Your care upon me
• for those people i know who have beautiful souls, who believe in me being amazing, exceptional person, next to whom i uncover my best qualities
• for those people thanks to whom i see my imperfections and define direction for self-development
• for the teachers who are rich source of inspiration for self-development
• for all cuddles that were like a channel for Your grace and love
• for the fact that nothing and nobody belongs to me but is expression of Your blessing i am to be thankful for
• for the love to myself and healthy self-examination that most of the time balance each other 
• for the fact that i am woman; for the fact that thanks to my female nature i feel connected to the purity, am able to see beauty, hear what is hidden between the words, read between the lines, feel what is implisit but true, absorb energy from everywhere, believe deeply, rejoice innocently and lightheartedly, have ability to cry and purify, feel everything around with Your love
• for the numerous talents You gifted me and help me uncover them and put them into life
• for the opportunity to be myself
• for the silent crushes of my innocent age which protected my heart from the early disappointments and preserved it for the matured feelings
• for the bitterness of loneliness during my university youth which also gave me the sweet after-taste of being with myself
• for the relationships that were and gave me understanding of what is beautiful and what is intolerable
• for the continuous journey that commenced when i was 17 and still goes on with Your blessing and under Your patronage persuading me to believe in the power of a dream
• for each trip that makes me closer to the understanding of myself and my purpose, my way
• for the unbelievable chain of meetings and events which led me to India that became my second home and gave me my second family
• for the introduction to Italy that was full of so much breathtaking beauty
• for all my dates with England and in England =)
• for the discovery of Egypt not just as a tourist but also as a piligrim and even as an insider
• for the opportunity to experience life of different nations, cultures, religions that allowed me observe beautiful things that unite all the people - translation of Your love in multiple ways and the fact that we all have souls with good qualities contained in it
• for the places of power that nurture me with energy of life, inspiration and joy
• for the opportunity to discover my big extended family, commence restoration of family connections
• for realization of the value of soul and the value of life for development of the former thing
• for the blessing with the financial security that lets invaluable time to be invested in service to You, in a female way, peacefully and with love
• for the good health as well as for all sicknesses and recoveries that altogether were acts of Your help and Your mercy
• for all massage sessions that reconciled my soul with my female body and brought me back to life =)
• for the opportunity to study at the Higher School Of Economics, it's degree certificate helped me to migrate to India but it's main merit is the fact that i found my near and dear girlfriends
• for the professional way that convinced me i can built a fine career but i want completely different thing
• for the superb, full of gratitude and genuine happiness time spent in the company of the clients of the House for people of advance age and disabilities
• for every opportunity to be useful and to take care of somebody
• for the answers to my innermost questions
• for the undescribable power of ablution, prayer, fast, piligrimage that becomes clearer to me day by day
• for everyday lessons of humbleness, unselfishness, patience, faith in the power of Your patronage and love, Your beneficence and mercy, lessons of true and false egoism
• for those people and events that are example of how one should love You, who help me return to You
• for the mistakes and opportunity to realize them, correct them and never repeat them
• for the real life examples that one must follow and examples that being clear demonstration of the wrong behavior admonish my own mistakes
• for the year of purification during which You gifted me not only the pain (by turning my faults against me) but also the way to happiness
• for the journey of happiness that i discover step by step every day
• for simple living that inspires to be creative, that does not pretend to priceless time and energy
• for each and every opportunity to learn good, genuine things
• for every single time You open my heart for forgiveness, gratitude and love
• for the strength allowing to move ahead

I love You..

Great picnic on a sunny autumn day!

Great autumn weather, beautiful nature-friendly neighborhood, few joyful and adventurous family members, good Maasdam, fresh French baguette and, of course, fire - sometimes that is all you require to be grateful and excited like this:

New angle on the King's Speech · Новый взгляд на "Говорящего Короля"

I watched The King's Speech again the other day. I use to highlight the brilliant cast, screen play, direction... so many "professional" attributes of the film that are no doubt praise-worthy. To me from now on it is also one of those rare movies which could be taken as a guide to true relationships - how one should serve his/her friend, spouse, country...

На днях вновь посмотрела "Король говорит". Для меня это всегда был фильм искусный, профессиональный, с блестящим актёрским составом, сценарием, режиссёрской работой... Но теперь я также считаю его одной из тех редких картин, которые действительно учат настоящим отношениям - тому, как следует служить другу, супругу, стране...

When a Girl is a true life companion · Истинная спутница жизни

1. She who deeply understands the purpose of life of her husband as well as opportunities of his destiny is his true life companion.

When a woman marries a man she has to get truly inspired but what a man considers his life purpose. She has to completely support his goals and inspire him to do whatever he considers needful. She has to be very excited about his purpose and look forward to it. By doing this she kindles his enthusiasm, actually nourishes his sense. As a result he self-develops very quickly. He matures. But there is a condition: if a woman does not accept living circumstances which her man is able to provide in the very beginning, she will destroy her life as well as life of her husband.

Woman has to bless her destiny for the life she was given, she has to be absolutely satisfied by what her destiny brings her. When she is satisfied she does not demand anything from her husbandю When she is at peace her husband himself starts developing quality of responsibility, he blooms as a man and this is what grows her love for him.

2. There cannot be expected happy family life if wife is not able to inspire her man to fulfill his responsibilities. If she fails to do it her family loses wealth and all other things.

Woman's main quality is ability to inspire her man to fulfill his responsibilities. To inspire means respect him and take care of him, support him in what he intends to do the right thing and do not support his unwillingness to do it. woman has to be very strict with her husband when he does not want to fulfill his duty, she has to be like a stone and her behavior has to be firm.

3. If a woman possesses all qualities of a true life companion her husband has nothing more to wish, he has everything. But if she does not have those qualities he has nothing.

4. Could there be bigger treasure in life than such a just wife.

5. A good wife upon rising worships not God but expresses her respect for her husband and Vedas consider it to be sufficient. Even clouds will obey such a woman and rains will fall at her command.

She who takes up ascesis to see her husband as dignified person and respect him becomes puissant personality. It is very difficult for a woman to do so due to the special thing she has about her psychу - she cannot not see the truth. She can see through one and knows all his qualities at once. If a woman is pure with regards to her husband she knows all his twists and turns and despite this she has to obey him. When a woman is determined to respect her husband unconditionally she gradually observes him changing as well. 

6. Is there any use in woman's selflessness and ascesis if she develops herself but not relationships with her husband. Что проку в отречении и аскетизме женщины, которая работает над собой и не работает над отноешниями с мужем.
Indeed only those women who invest all their energy into their husbands reach perfection in their lives. Else their family breaks due to the fact that difference in mental position between a wife and a husband becomes fatal.
Tirukkural narrated by doctor O.G.Torsunov

25 responsibilities for a happy family life · 25 обязанностей для счастливой семейной жизни

25 RESPONSIBILITIES OF A WOMAN
1. To get married and create a family
2. To preserve the family
3. To "make" her man a man
4. To organize all domestic cares
5. To exercise domestic cares
6. To be loyal to her husband with her body, in her deeds and thoughts
7. To become her man's best friend
8. To be beautiful and attractive to her man
9. To inspire her man
10. To eat sweet meats
11. To wear jewelry
12. To enjoy beautiful clothing
13. To wear long skirts
14. To always experience closeness to her man - to not estrange from him
15. To respect her man
16. To appreciate and give praise to her man
17. To admire her man
18. To obey her man
19. To manage her emotions
20. To be moderate and patient
21. To speak serenely and gently
22. To be sensitive and tender
23. Take part in child-rearing
24. To do good to her husband - do it with love
25. To not fulfill her husband's role.

25 RESPONSIBILITIES OF A MAN
1. To take leadership in man-woman relationships
2. To being responsible for external policy - having friends, relationships with other people
3. To expanding space - house, flat
4. To earning family income
5. To identifying his personal nature: "intellectual"/"manager"/"trader"/"crafter"
6. To finding a job/business in accordance with his personal nature
7. To giving inspiration/permission to his wife
8. To respecting his wife
9. To feeling reverence for his wife, protecting her
10. To not criticizing his wife, accepting her the way she is
11. To not talking over his wife
12. To being responsible for moral education of his family
13. To being responsible for physical development of his family
14. To being responsible for spiritual/religious education of his family
15. To being the leader in child-rearing
16. To identifying principles of mutual life - understanding of purpose of life
17. To differentiating spheres of mutual life - man must know which are his duties and which ones belong to his wife
18. To being serious human being
19. To being person respected by the society
20. To understanding woman's changeable nature
21. To providing his woman with sweet meets, jewelry and beautiful garments
22. To being loving to his wife so she could feel it
23. To eat cereals
24. To feeling reverence for his wife's parents and respecting them more than his own parents
25. Husband's parents have to respect their daughter-in-law more their own son

Purpose of creating a family · Смысл создания семьи

"Family life aims not at resolving personal conflicts and problems but by having stable and strong harmony within the family to benefit your own children and society...indeed those who help other people automatically resolve problems of their own relationships. It is not possible for those who focus on resolving their own problems in the first place. One must know that if he creates family in a wrong way he/she will spend all his energy on solving family problems. In this case he/she will be absolutely useless for society...
...Incorrect understanding of purpose of creating family will influence further destiny of a person...Life in a family where relatives do not have and share sublime aspiration can be compared to surgical intervention... There will surely be pain and offenses. Moreover their whole life together will not be enough for such family to understand that all difficulties they faced were their lessons. It is only then you are good in studies when you do not cut your own intestine in order to practice methods of help. In the same way it is better to learn helping others when your family is in peace and you have energy and time to help."
(c) 2000-2004, Doctor O.G. Torsunov, www.torsunov.ru

Flying moments of life.. · Мимолётные моменты жизни

Pascal Campion. "Little Big Things"

Flying moments of life must be treasured! Pascal Campion revoices my main thoughts of this week. His illustrations and animation capture beautiful scenes and people full of love and gentleness. Do spare time to go to his website to enjoy them all!

Мимолётные моменты жизни надо ценить! Паскаль Кэмпион вторит моим основным мыслям этой недели. В его иллюстрациях и анимационных фильмах запечатлены прекрасные сцены и люди, полные любви и нежности. Найдите время, чтобы посетить его вебсайт и насладиться ими всеми!

What I am grateful for today · За что я благодарна сегодня

Chaykovskiy - Staroaktau (my family "cradle") - Buzdyak - Kilimovo - Chaykovskiy

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It is unbelievable how events with no connection at the first glance eventually appear to be a part of one powerful experience!
On the day of my dad's arrival from his "far and away" project we came to know that his youngest brother expired. This is not the first time we get such bad news but i strongly felt it was going to be different and it certainly was..
I want to thank you, God, for giving my family strength to become one in dealing with the loss; for helping my mom support my dad in the right way; for showing me how selflessness and kindness of women of the family makes their men strong; for helping my dad show his best qualities; for continuously letting me know that each event has a blessing.
So in the event of loss of my uncle i found awesome cousin brothers - his sons whom i never talked to, had a chance to be proud of, could relate myself to when uncle was alive. In fact i couldn't relate myself to anyone in my family (except few). Till this trip. I guess i never cared to explore this opportunity and thus, God, i thank You for offering me the eye-opening chance and new great feeling about my big family! Thank You for introducing me to my adorable 5-year old cousin niece and a day spent with her which convinced me I will be a fun mom to my own kids one day =) Thank You for giving me opportunity to cook a special meal for my family and all the delicious Tatar food i was generously offered in every house i went to. Thank you for making the drive home smooth and fast. And thank You for the beauty of my native people and nature i observed all the way to and from Bashkiria..